Posted on 05/06/2015 at 10:03 AM by Dena Boelter
In celebration of Mother's Day this weekend, Don Hummer Trucking wished to share a story written by the spouse of a driver, Rebecca Murray. Thanks, Rebecca for sharing your experience from the perspective of spouse and mother.
Being a wife of a truck driver has not always been easy! There have been good days, and bad days along the way. My husband, Dan started driving truck before we got married. At the time it was not too bad. It was just the two of us and all was good. At first, it did take a lot of getting used to. Then we got married. Once we got married, I was able to go out with him on the road. That was nice just being able to be with him while he was working. I have stood by him through good jobs and bad ones. I have even driven to upstate Michigan to pick him up from one of the dead end jobs that he had.
Truck driving is not easy on a family. We have an autistic, lively, and energetic 11 year old son, Jonathan. When he was born, Dan was working local so it was not that bad. When he went back on the road it was very hard to cope. Now Jonathan is much older, and is more attached to his dad. He does not understand the concept that daddy has to be gone to work. It just makes his home time a bonding time for them.
If it was not for the support of my family I do not know what I would have done. They have been there for Jonathan and I while Dan is on the road. I am very thankful for that. Dan’s aunt has been my rock through the years. She has been very insightful and has helped us out immensely.
I think that what makes it easier now is that we talk to Dan several times a day. We stay in constant communication with one another about what is going on either here or if he just needs to vent about something.
The good thing is knowing that he is out there doing what he has to do to provide for our family. I have been blessed to have such a hard working husband. I have thoroughly enjoyed all of our trips in the truck together. He was working and we still spent quality time together. We have even had some good times as a family together while he was out on the road working when Jonathan and I have travelled with him.
Something that I have found helpful is to make sure that you maintain constant communication with your husband/wife/significant other. Lack of communication can lead you down a road that is not pleasant. I learned that the hard way. Nothing in the life of being a truck driver’s wife is easy, but you just have to take it one day at a time.
The thing that has kept me going all these years is knowing that he is out there providing for us and will be home soon. That makes our time together so much better. Through the good and the bad times, the thought of him making it home to be with us makes it so much easier to cope with. I am not sure what I would do without him. He is my rock, my soulmate, and I am forever a proud truck driver’s wife!
Submitted by Rebecca Murray